Break-ups, they are an
inevitable part of life, unless for some reason you just so happen to have met
your soul mate before you had the misfortune of kissing a few frogs. If that’s
the case for you, congratulations for being above the curve... I hate you (not
really, but really.) Anyway for the rest of us we have to learn to cope with
the heartache in a healthy way. I’ve dealt with my fair share of heartbreak
over the course of my relationship history so trust me when I say that I know
it sucks and that it hurts and that you probably want to throw up, but also
trust me when I say that it’s going to be okay. I promise! I know people on my
other medias have asked me questions before about how to deal with break-ups so
I’m going to share my tips/steps for getting over a break-up as well as a list
of what not to do.
TIPS/STEPS:
1.
UNFRIEND HIM
ON EVERYTHING! Despite whether or not the two of you want to continue being
friends or not in real life being friends on the Internet is not a good idea
right now. If you don’t delete him you will probably end up stalking him and
that will only make you feel worse and fill your head with irrational ideas and
thoughts. Seriously... you could drive yourself crazy and that is the last
thing you need right now.
2.
Allow yourself
ONE night of loathing and passionate hate. Don’t pretend you’re okay when you
really aren’t. It’s healthy to get out your feelings but it’s also a good idea
not to let your feelings consume you. So give yourself one night to just get it
all out. You can do this alone with a pizza, loud music, and some movies or you
could get together with a friend and have an intense girls’ night filled with
food, ex bashing, and pampering. Whatever helps you just do it! Well, just do
it with in reason... don’t go burning him in effigy or anything, that’s a
little extreme.
3. Get active and focus on you. Being single
gives you a lot of time to rediscover yourself. Find new things that make you
happy. Try a new hobby or start that workout routine you always said you where
going to do. This is a new beginning. Start it off right by making yourself a
better you.
4. Prioritize your needs over your wants. By
this I mean you may want him back, but you don’t need him! Being with him didn’t
and isn’t going to define you as a person, only you can do that. You can still
continue on and find the things that you really need in order to find
happiness.
5. Surround yourself with loved ones. Like I
said we have all been through break-ups so you aren’t alone. The people who
love and care about you are going to be more than willing to be there for you.
Being social will not only help you to get your mind of the situation, but it
will also remind you how lucky and loved you really are.
WHAT NOT TO DO:
1. DON’T beg for them back. Not only does it look
pathetic but it can also be a huge turn off. Chances are even if they take you
back they will break-up with you again when they stop feeling bad for you.
2.
DON’T harass
them... not only will they think you’re crazy, but it also gives them a reason
for being more mean about things than they were before. Not to mention you
shouldn’t even be talking to them right now.
3. DON’T dwell on the good memories. We all
like to think about the good times, but that really isn’t going to make things
any better because you’re obviously ignoring all the shit times that got the
two of you into this position in the first place. Remind yourself why he isn’t
good for you and why you’re better off and happier without him.
4. DON’T run after someone new. Rebounds are
never a good idea and usually end up being toxic. You never really get over
someone by getting under someone else.
I hope this helped! Now
remember to keep calm, focus on you, and that everything will be okay.
- Lexi
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